By Claude Vale
Narcissistic abuse is evil. Full stop.
It is not just “toxic.” It’s not a bad breakup or a rough patch. It is a slow, calculated erosion of your reality, your voice, and your sense of self.
This form of abuse doesn’t always scream. It whispers. It confuses. It rewrites your truth until you’re no longer sure what’s real.
And the worst part? No one sees it.
Not your friends. Not your family. And over time — not even you.
Gaslighting is the weapon of choice.
It starts small: “That never happened.” “You’re imagining things.” “You’re too sensitive.”
Then it becomes systemic: conversations denied, feelings mocked, betrayals twisted into your fault.
You stop trusting your instincts. You apologize for your reactions.
You become a ghost inside your own life.
I lived this. For years.
I was emotionally starved, confused, and isolated — not by accident, but by design.
That is how narcissistic abuse works. It isolates you, starves you of truth, and then thrives in your silence.
And I stayed silent for too long.
Because I didn’t want to cause waves.
Because I thought no one would believe me.
Because I had already been made to feel crazy.
But silence is the abuser’s best friend.
And I won’t be its ally anymore.
I am speaking now. Loudly. Clearly. Without shame.
Because I survived.
Without support. Without validation. Without help.
And that means I can survive anything — and help others do the same.
This is why I created Echoes of My Darkness — a raw, musical journey through survival.
And this is why I’m founding the Pink Soldier Foundation — to serve those who have been broken by emotional abuse and gaslighting.
No red tape. No judgment. Just help. Just truth.
If this makes you uncomfortable — good.
Abuse should make you uncomfortable.
If you’d rather not see it, I understand. But I won’t stop.
Because there are people still in that fog, still questioning their sanity, still waiting to be seen.
I see you. I hear you. You are not weak. You are not crazy. And you are not alone
Mental health is not a “me” problem—it’s an “our” responsibility. By sharing my story, I hope to foster awareness and encourage healing, both individually and as a society. I invite you to join me on this transformative journey of self-awareness, discovery, and creation. Together, we can inspire change, challenge ignorance, and build a more compassionate world.