I firmly believe that “trauma recovery” is an illusion. Something we are being told so we don’t loose give up out of fear of confronting life’s darkest truths. This is my personal opinion on this subject, other think differently about this. (Again I want to point out that I am not a medical professional and everything on this website are my personal views, based on my personal experience, your experience might be completely different.)
Recovery isn’t about erasing the scars—it’s about learning to live with them, to learn from them and to grow and move forward to a brighter tomorrow and not allow our fear to imprison us in our own minds. I can tell you from my own experience that this was my biggest challenge- believing there is a better version of myself I can become. Once I face my demons, I took their hold over me. Once I realized I did not have to just accept the pain and live a life of misery, I started to feel empowered. I don’t care what people think of me. I don’t need the validation of family members that have abandoned me when I needed support the most. As long as I try to be my best self and not give up the morals my father taught me, I know I am on the right path and a good person who deserves to be happy and is allowed to have good things come into my life.
but that the reward is absolutely worth it.
When those closest to us walk away rather than seek to understand the full picture, it sends a painful message.
When you face your deepest trauma alone and are still here to tell your story, a website isn’t just deserved—it’s necessary. This is my way of staying true to who I am, of proving to myself that I exist beyond the pain.